🌟 Vulnerability Is Powerful 🌟

26 Nov 2017

I was brought up to be super independent.

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To do everything myself so that I never "needed" a man. In fact - fuck - so that I never needed a-n-y-o-n-e!

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But that way of life was exhausting and it wasn't Me.

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Tantra has helped me see this pattern and recognise the enormous beauty in vulnerability, softness and allowing others to help me, to step up and even to let people do things for me that I'm completely capable of doing myself 😳😳

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The beauty in allowing others "in" - apart from that it feels really nice to "receive" and to be cared for - is that is gives the other space to "step up"; for them to feel good because they can be of value; and it creates connection.

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For those who are familiar, this is the dance between masculine energies and feminine energies (or yang and yin).

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And creating space for this dance yields deeply rewarding and nourishing results.

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So, for the last 2 years, I've been trying to learn to be LESS independent! And to create space for people to help me.

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And even more vulnerably... lately I've started ASKING for help.

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Generally I haven't found asking for help quite so terrifying because I think I understand that we all need help sometimes and I love that its nice for the other to give, also.

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However, my big edge is...is expressing my NEEDS. Asking for someone to help fulfil a need.

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Oh my goodness...So Much Shame comes up when I even acknowledge I have a need, let alone actually getting vulnerable and asking someone to fulfil it. OMG!!!! That is big, *scary* territory.

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So, today - on a first date of all things - I got super vulnerable, expressed a need and asked if my date could fulfil it. 😵 🎉🎉🎉

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This. Was. Huge!

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The amount of shame I had to battle through was p-a-i-n-f-u-l.

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Every time I attempted to say what I wanted to say, I shut down.

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I'd build myself up, ready to speak and then the voice my head said "Noooo!!!! You can't say THAT!!!"

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It must have taken me 5 attempts (and a very understanding date) to utter the words... but I did it!!!

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And the reason I'm sharing this... is because it was A Complete Game-Changer.

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This shift in vulnerability from me, allowed my date to step up. And step up he did!

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It was so humbling to hear his response and see his desire to fulfil my request. It created so much connection between us 💗💗💗

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I feel so deeply humbled to have this experience. To feel the magnitude of the pain from the shame I battled through to be able to utter those words...and to witness how heart-warming his response was...wow! 😍

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So, dear friends... I share this experience to remind you the power of allowing yourself to be vulnerable. The power of creating space for another to step up and help or be there for us.

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It's big stuff!

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In fact, it's frickin life changing.

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Be brave - bring it on! 💖