Sexual Awakening For Women Programme

A guided, one-to-one, 6-month journey towards a more fulfilled, satisfying and enjoyable sexual experience of your body - for women who are deeply committed to personal transformation in their intimate experiences.

➤ Do you struggle to relax during sex or intimacy?

➤ Do you enjoy sex but sense there must be more?

➤ Have your partners spent hours trying to give you an orgasm, only for both of you to end up feeling frustrated?

➤ Do you feel under pressure to 'perform' and try to reach orgasm?

➤ Is sex painful or numb / without much sensation?

➤ Has sex started to feel like a chore or obligation, rather than a journey into ecstatic pleasure?

➤ Are your orgasms non-existent or short and unsatisfying?

Being a sexual woman in today's society can be tough. We place so many demands on ourselves to be so many things and fulfil so many roles. Making time for ourselves and our sex lives isn't always top of our priorities.


Yet feeling sexually dissatisfied - or maybe even judging ourselves to be sexually dysfunctional - can have a huge impact on our wellbeing and emotional and mental health.


This can affect how we feel about ourselves, how loved we feel, how worthy we feel and our insecurities can start to run riot. All of this adds up to more pressure we place on ourselves to have that amazing orgasm and meet our partner's desires.


None of this leads to better sexual experiences....in fact, the critic in our head can often create a vicious cycle that leads to us feeling more nervous, our bodies being more frozen and orgasms being even harder to reach.

I know, because I've been there!

When I first started having sex - like many of us - I had no idea what I was doing! I wanted to connect to my partner and to feel loved by him - but I didn't know how my body worked, what it needed or how to tell if it was ready for sex.


I knew that sometimes my vagina was more lubricated than others and that sometimes sex was more enjoyable than other times, but - a lot of the time - sex, for me, felt dry and uncomfortable - and occasionally really painful.

I didn't want to ruin my partner's enjoyment or worry him, so I didn't say anything. And, as sex got more and more uncomfortable, I disconnected from my body more and more to cope with it. By 'disconnected' I mean, I would think of other things - I used to plan what I needed to buy in the supermarket!

"I used to long for my partner to orgasm, so the sex would be over"

Over time, my orgasms became more and more stunted - like a sudden, powerful eruption that was over in a nanosecond. And often - rather than being enjoyable - they were slightly painful and I couldn't have anything touch my genitals afterwards because it felt too intense.

"I thought it was normal for my clit to be painful after orgasm - it turns out, it isn't!"

When a clitoris is painful after orgasm, that's called 'hyper-sensitivity' and it means the nerve endings have become over-sensitive and energy has got trapped in the body as 'armour', which holds little bits of trauma and stops energy being able to move freely through the body. Yet, so many of us suffer with this painful post-orgasm clitoris never knowing something can be done to release this armour and bring the clit back into regular sensitivity and pleasure again!


I had also never experienced an internal orgasm. My g-spot was something I'd heard of but knew nothing about and certainly had no idea it was possible to orgasm from it. I also later learned orgasms are possible from the a-spot, cervix, vaginal entrance, urethra, anus and several other places too!


For me, reaching orgasm was hard. I had to really concentrate and will it to happen! And it was so easy for my partner to get the touch slightly wrong and suddenly all the build up was gone. It was deeply frustrating, embarrassing and left me feeling ashamed of my body.

All that changed when I did 3 main things :-


1) I began feeling my feelings and allowing myself to release past emotion;


2) I started to connect to my body. I learned what it meant to "be in my body" and how to tell when I was "in my head".


3) Learned that tolerating meant I was out of consent with myself.

The answer is to slow down... drop deeper into our bodies and gift ourselves a pressure-free, emotionally-safe space to explore our bodies.

As women, we are each unique... There is no one-size fits all. When it comes to our sexuality and sexual make-up, we each have different needs and preferences based upon our own unique journey through life.


Every past experience has shaped us.


Occasions when we have been entered when our body wasn't relaxed, wasn't lubricated enough, wasn't aroused enough or simply wasn't ready...these leave energetic residue known as armour or trauma and build up to stop energy flowing freely and pleasure being accessible. Some spots become numb and without much feeling and some become over-sensitive and painful to touch. This armour limits our ability to feel pleasure and to orgasm because energy can't flow freely.


Stored emotions from our upbringing and our past play a role too. Emotions are energy and any emotional baggage we are carrying from the past are old stuck energies in our body, which can stop our life force flowing abundantly through us. They create blocks in us and limit our ability to feel comfortable around others or around sexuality. We may feel awkward, clumsy, fearful and not know how to ask for what we want or say no when something doesn't feel right.

Then there's our erotic blueprint and core erotic themes that differ us too!


Are you someone who is aroused by anticipation and longing? Or a sensual atmosphere, gentle touch and a slow, intentional love making? Or maybe you just like it raw animal-style? Sex for fun! Sex for release. And not forgetting our kinks...that which is considered taboo by society..and that we could be considered "naughty" for enjoying... Maybe all four are your turn on? Or maybe you have a strong preference for one more than another...


All of these factors - plus more - make us and our bodily experience UNIQUE.

In this 6 month journey, we uncover your unique sexual needs and expression.

Yoni - A Sacred Name For Our Genitals

The word Yoni (pronounced 'yo-nee') is the Sanskrit word for vagina and vulva. Literally translated it means "Sacred Temple" or "Sacred Space".


I like that the origins of this word convey reverence and honouring to this sacred, life-birthing, pleasure-giving, magical part of our body!  And, for this reason, I tend most often to use the word Yoni when referring to female genitalia - including in the programme description below.


However, you are free to choose any word you like - all variations welcome!

This Programme Will Offer You...

★ A deeper connection to and more loving relationship with your body and yoni

★ Decreased hyper-sensitivity and increased access to sensation and pleasure

★ Knowledge of what types of touch you like

★ A fresh and more easeful approach to sex and intimacy

★ Increased awareness of how to create safety for yourself so you can relax and let your body open

★ Confidence asking for what you want and saying when something doesn't feel good for you

★ Ability to recognise and express your boundaries

★ Tools to access and release emotion in a healthy way

★ Increased self-worth

★ Increased self-awareness and self-knowledge

★ A more nurturing self-pleasure regime

★ Tools to continue your own healing journey at home and beyond this programme

★ Understanding of consent and how to recognise when you are out of consent with yourself or another

★ Familiarity of what 'yes', 'no' and 'maybe' feel like in your body

★ Knowledge of the anatomy of your yoni

★ Awareness of how trauma affects your body

★ Experience of your boundaries being upheld and respected

★ Experience of receiving unconditional nurturing, honouring, loving touch

★ Freedom to express all of who you are in a safe, loving environment

You may notice that I'm not promising you orgasms - and, that's correct, I'm not. I promise I will teach you how to connect with your body, how to relax and create the right environment for your body to open, how to ask for what you want and need, how to experience and stay with pleasure in your body, and I will support you to navigate anything that is getting in the way of you accessing this.


But, if I were to promise you orgasms, I would create exactly one of the cycles necessary to break in order to have that orgasm! Putting your body under pressure to perform. And this is absolutely key.


Any programme that promises you orgasms will put pressure on your nervous system to make something happen - and that is exactly what STOPS orgasms from happening. Or  - if orgasms are forced - in doing so, more armour and trauma can be created, damaging your body.


This programme works WITH your body - in harmony with your body - listening to your body and honouring your deepest needs and fears.


Orgasms come when we are fully relaxed and feel safe.


When there is no pressure to be a certain way.


When we have permission for ALL OF US to be seen, welcome and accepted - and that is what I offer you in this programme.

OK, I'm in..!

How is the programme delivered?

The programme consists of two 3-month modules:

Self Knowledge

and

Body Experience


In the Self Knowledge module, I support you to get to know your sexual self and clear out any energy that may be restricting the flow of your sexual aliveness. Clearing out this energy makes way for you to call in the new and lays the ground-work for you to flourish in the Body Experience module.


In the Body Experience module, I use physical-touch-based releasing of armour in your body, pelvis and yoni (known as de-armouring). This is done through a series of tantric yoni massages, emotional releasing, activation of greater flow of your sexual (life force) energy and expanding your access to pleasurable and arousing sensations in your body.

In the Self Knowledge module, usually covered over 3 months, you will learn...

➤ what turns you on

➤ what your body needs to relax

➤ what helps your body open

➤ what types of touch and sensation you most enjoy

➤ female genital anatomy

➤ how your body gets aroused

➤ about the Wheel of Consent(TM)

➤ how to ask for what you want

➤ how to ask for adjustments

➤ how to say no to things you don't want

➤ how to uphold your boundaries

➤ how to stop tolerating


We also explore your emotional body and work to release any emotional blocks that may be limiting your pleasure expansion.

➤ Learn tools to access and release emotion

➤ Clear energy through role-played conversations with people who have restricted your sexual expression

➤ Shift old relating dynamics and patterns

Delivery

The Self Knowledge module is delivered through 6 in-person sessions (each lasting 2-3 hours), at my practice in Clapham, SW London, and 3 optional (30-60 minute) video support calls. The course duration is intended to last 3 months.


Sessions will include a mixture of educational material, self enquiry, cathartic emotional release techniques, shamanic/energetic dialoguing and non-genital touch. I will remain fully clothed at all times and your boundaries will be encouraged and fully respected at all times.


You will be invited to undertake some practice or homeplay in between sessions. Your commitment to practicing and completing these homeplays will directly influence how much you gain from this programme.


Completion of this module is a pre-requisite for the Body Experience module.

Once you have embodied the self knowledge concepts, you are ready for the Body Experience module.


The Body Experience module, covered usually over the following 3 months, is an opportunity to put into practice everything you have learned in the Self Knowledge module. Discover, through a series of intimate body and tantric yoni massages, exactly how you liked to be touched and what your body needs to fully relax and expand into your greatest pleasure.


This stage of the programme includes releasing energetic and emotional blocks in your body, pelvis and yoni through gentle, yet, precise and sometimes deep body and genital touch techniques, known as de-armouring. It's a powerful process in which a huge amount of transformation can occur. Through de-armouring, you may notice ripples of change in your behavioural patterns, your emotions, your relationships and friendships, your beliefs and your attitudes in life.


Important: The changes in your life may be quite profound and you will need to factor in time and space after each session and in between sessions to integrate new awarenesses and any emotions you uncover.


Our final session will be an integration of everything you have gained and discovered about yourself and your next steps to support you to bring this transformation into your everyday life.

Delivery

The Body Experience module is delivered through a further 6 in-person sessions (each lasting 2-3 hours), at my practice in Clapham, SW London, and 3 optional (30-60 minute) video support calls. The course duration is intended to last 3 months.


These sessions will be much more body-touch based and will include intimate genital touch if your body is ready for that. These sessions are an opportunity for you to put into practice everything you have learned in the Self Knowledge module. I will remain fully clothed at all times and we will go only at the pace that is right for you and your body. Your boundaries will be encouraged and fully respected at all times.


You will be invited to journal and reflect upon each session. You may also be invited to undertake some homeplay in between sessions. Your commitment to these practices will directly influence how much you gain from this programme.


Important: Changes you experience in your life through this programme may be quite profound. You will need to factor in time and space after each session and in between sessions to integrate new awarenesses and any emotions you uncover.

Is This Programme For Me?

This Programme Is For You If...

  • Awakening your Sexual Self is an important priority in your life;
  • You want to get to know yourself better;
  • You want a kinder and more loving relationship with your body and genitals;

  • You know or suspect that a more fulfilling sexual experience is available to you and you are ready to uncover this;
  • You are willing to feel your emotions and express them in a safe and loving environment;
  • You are ready to face things in the past that may be holding you back from having the life you want and deserve;
  • You can afford this programme without putting extreme financial distress on other areas of your life;
  • You are prepared to make time for yourself in between sessions to rest, practice and integrate what you have learned in the sessions;
  • You are willing to create time and space to self pleasure in between sessions to discover more about how your body works and what feels good for you;
  • You can get to Clapham (post code SW8 3JX) twice a month for sessions;
  • You are willing to attend some of your sessions between Monday to Friday and are open to taking half-days off work, if necessary, to make this possible;
  • You are open to recognising and changing limiting beliefs and negative narratives that may be stopping you experiencing the sex life you want for yourself;
  • You are ready to start looking at parts of yourself you may have shied away from;
  • You are ready to upgrade your sexual experiences with yourself and other people;
  • You are open to deep and profound change.

It's Not For You If...

  • You are not willing to feel emotions that you may have suppressed from the past;
  • You are unable to get to Clapham (post code SW8 3JX) twice a month for sessions;
  • You are only able to get to Clapham at weekends and no other time (weekend sessions book up fast so it may be necessary for you to come weekday day time or early evenings - people sometimes take half day holidays to make this possible);
  • You do not currently have the money available to take this programme;
  • You are not able to reach out to friends and family to support you during this programme;
  • You want someone else do to all the work for you in your own evolution and think all your problems can be solved outside of yourself without you needing to change anything inside of you;
  • You already know everything about sex and intimacy and are completely happy and healthy in your relationships and should probably be teaching this programme;
  • You are currently undergoing treatment for or support with a diagnosed Psychiatric or mental health challenge (please enquire if unsure).

Investment

The Sexual Awakening For Women Programme is run over 6 months and assumes you will be able to attend two sessions per month at my practice in Clapham, SW London, be able to complete home practices and gift yourself time for rest and integration in between sessions.


The full cost of this programme is £3,600, currently reduced to £2,800 as a pilot launch, prior to the live launch of the programme in spring/summer 2020. A small price to pay for learning how to enjoy your body!


Payment can be made in full or in two instalments of £1,500 at month zero and month three.

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What my Tantric Yoni Massage clients say...

"I loved that I could be 100% myself - no judgement. After the session, I felt empowered, excited & a lust for life"


"Natalie provided a safe and loving space for me to relax into the yoni massage. She communicated what to expect clearly and guided me through beautifully. Thank you Natalie for our magical session."


"When you were massaging my womb area, it seemed to me so different than when we started (comparing to the 1st time) - it felt now like a healed space full of life and energy"


"After the Tantric Yoni Massage, I felt connected and alive and PROUD. Proud to be a woman, to have my yoni and breasts, to have this shape of body. How magical and beautiful it is to be a woman. And all of us are so unique in their own way. I felt excited to go out there and shine through my femininity and be simply myself because I am perfect as I am." - Michaela


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